I wasn’t sure if I would write about this here, but I went to our small group this morning and it’s the only thing on my mind right now. If I don’t write about this, I’m going to end up writing about my messy house or how I don’t feel like working out or how I ate too much junkfood this weekend – and we’ve already done all those things too many times.
So here it is. You’re going to get what’s on my mind.
As a group, we are supposed to decide on a project we can do to reach out to the community. We’re supposed to dream big and expect large and seemingly impossible results. We are supposed to decide and move forward and watch God go to work as we move to intentionally love the world around us.
This is the thing though.
I don’t know if I can dream big and impossible right now. I don’t know if that is really what God is asking of me at the moment.
I don’t know if I’m really supposed to focus my efforts on something that feels so big I can barely wrap my brain around it, and it makes me feel like I’m being sucked down a vortex as I puff a brown paper bag.
I understand what the author is trying to do. I get it, and I don’t totally disagree.
I just partly disagree, for me, right now.
Because I just came to understand that it’s OK to look at my life in the context of seasons. My season is not the same as your season, or my pastor’s season, or my group leader’s season, or my bff’s season. It’s ok if I can’t do it all. God loves me anyway. I don’t have to perform. My season is one with four school aged kids, nighttime activities, trying to provide home cooked meals, and civil homework time. I’m trying to keep Loving Mama in the house instead of Mama Grizzly.
It’s a season where I consciously chose not to go back to the shelter this school year because I felt I needed to be available to help out in the kids’ elementary and because I felt a stirring in my heart to make art with an abandon I’ve never afforded myself. These are all things I chose carefully and prayerfully.
Less. More focused. Reign in my orbit and do smaller but more genuine things.
So why now, am I in this group whose purpose is to focus out and big?
I don’t know if I can go big or go home. If they make me chose, I might have to go home.
And this is where guerrilla love occurred to me.
Why not stay right here in my community. duh.
And know these people well. duh.
And find out how I can best love them? duh.
Why don’t I: JUST. DO. THAT?
I don’t know if this defeats the purpose of the study. We are all supposed to do a project together.
But what if we all chose to Guerrilla Love?
What would that look like?
15 people loving ferociously and on the sly.
It might look like showing up unexpectedly to stock the freezer of a recently widowed friend with 3 homemade soups, 12 burritos, 2 roast chickens, 3 lasagnas and 3 batches of Picadillo.
It might look like muffins for the security guards at school, who keep our children safe.
It might look like hand-written notes to the people in our lives who changed us at our core.
It might look like a phone call to a friend who’s battling depression.
It might look like taking a few extra minutes after class to hug the friend who just lost her sister in a car crash.
It might look like donating funds for a sick mama.
It might look like making a CD crammed full of inspiring music for a friend whose spirits need lifting.
It might look like babysitting for a mom who’s been pent-up with her sick kids for 2 weeks.
It might look like showing up with a take-home dinner for your little one’s teacher who you just learned leaves her house at 6:30 AM with her two littles and doesn’t return home again till 8:30PM, then turns around and does it all again the next day.
It might mean sending an encouraging note to someone who’s doing a hard thing right now.
It might mean having meaningful conversation with the grocery store clerk and learning that she’s having surgery in a week, and maybe she could use a help picking her kids up from school.
It might mean taking several minutes to put away your phone and focus here and now on these people under your roof. To look them in the eyes, touch their cheeks and really hear how their day went.
And if that’s all from one person in one week – all those lives touched, about 20 – if each of our 15 people chose to consciously Guerilla Love – that’s 300 people whose hearts have been touched.
Those are some staggering numbers. And this is how God speaks. Through us.
At first glance, it might seem small fry. . . But I don’t think it is. These are things that matter. They’re things that people will feel, genuinely. These things require us to connect, to invest, to care. And whatever we choose to do now, for this project – it’s supposed to be something sustainable.
Isn’t this how we want to live, truly? With our eyes open, appreciating, loving, aware?
While I’m in this season, I think I can actually do this. This doesn’t feel like a vortex suck, this feels like an exhale.
I can manage this. I want to do this. I already believe in this, but now is the time to DO it instead of just think it.
Sign me up for Guerrilla Love.